A Comparison of Non-Assertive, Assertive, and Aggressive Communication

Nonassertion

Nonassertion is failing to stand up for oneself, or standing up for oneself in such an ineffectual manner that one's rights are easily violated.

Assertion

Assertion is standing up for oneself in such a way that one does not violate the basic rights of another person. It's a direct, honest, and appropriate expression of one's feelings and opinions.

Aggression

Aggresssion is standing up for oneself in such a manner that the rights of the other person are
violated in the process. It's an attempt to humiliate or put down the other person.

 NON-ASSERTIVEASSERTIVEAGGRESSIVE
Characteristics of the communication: Emotionally dishonest,
indirect, self-denying,
inhibited
Appropriately emotionally honest, direct, self-enhancing, expressive Inappropriately emotionally honest, direct, self-enhancing at expense of another; expressive
Your feeling when you engage in this communication: Hurt, anxious at the time and possibly angry later Confident, selfrespecting at the time and later   Righteous, superior, depreciatory at the time and possibly guilty later
Other person's feelings about her/himself when you engage in this communication: Irritated, pity, disgusted Generally respect Angry, vengeful

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